In the past I have strayed away from making any kind of New Year’s Resolution. Mostly, because I knew that by 5pm on January 2nd, I was already over it. Being the second full week of January, I imagine many of you have already given up on any resolutions for improvement you might have promised yourselves.
This year, I have decided to give my New Year’s Resolution a go, again. I am not reaching for anything that is pie in the sky for me, like taking up running so I can run a 10K. (Any of you who know me understand that unless I am being chased, running is not for me.) This year in 2013 I am taking on a new challenge for myself and I ask you to do the same. My goal for this year is to be kinder to myself by tuning in to what my body’s needs are – instead of doing what I think I am supposed to do.
While this may sound simple enough, and some of my readers may have this challenge licked – all of you are to be commended! But I have spoken with many people over the past few months and have been amazed to hear how few of us actually do for ourselves what we need, and what our bodies need. The holidays are all about this. We go to visit family because we are supposed to do this, we send out holiday cards because it’s what we’ve done for the past decade, we eat that extra meal out because we made the commitment to go, and we drag ourselves to the gym because we have to burn off that dinner out.
Where is the happiness there? It’s frankly exhausting always doing things out of obligation or undue pressure we place upon ourselves.
I took a little time in December to reflect on this accelerated lifestyle that we all lead. Sometimes I find myself so busy with the monotony of life that I don’t have time to stop and ask myself, “Is this what I really want?” Do you know that when we are really out of touch with ourselves we actually don’t even know what we want? What does that feeling of being so out of sync feel like to you? For me, I feel like a discombobulated robot – not a good way to live.
So January, is the month of resolutions, but I like to call it Hitting My Reset Button. My family of golfers likes to refer to it as taking a Mulligan, or a do-over. My goal this month is to get back to doing things that I like, and to regularly ask myself, “Is this going to make me happy?”
Question is: how do you know if the answer is yes or no?
There is an exercise one can do that is very simple to get in touch with your inner spirit – who will never lie to you. You’re brain can talk you in and out of many things, but your heart always knows your truth. You can actually ask yourself anything and your body will provide you with the answer. If you feel lightness and happiness in your heart, that is truth. If you feel it in your gut, it is your body’s negative response and not something that will lead to happiness. May sound out there, but here’s an example:
Think about your children or pets and ask yourself if they make you happy. You will feel a lightness over your heart and that is your body telling you that the loves in your life contribute happiness to you. Now, think of something that is sad, tragic, or that makes you angry – we all have them! Where do you feel it? In your gut, right?
These are very basic questions, but ones that can be applied to all aspects of our life, even our New Year’s Resolutions. Think about the goals you set, ask yourself if they feel right to you. Where do you feel them? If it’s not in your heart, then you may want to take a Mulligan and make some new goals.
Tune in and listen to your heart (and gut) and allow them to be your guide this year to make 2013 the year of bliss for you.
Blessings to you all,